儿子在一月份举办婚礼，迎娶新娘。



这一儿子的人生大事，对我们当父母的来说，又何其不是我们自己的人生大事。我们早早准备行装。孩子他妈为准备一件风光得体的行头费尽了心思，千挑万选，自己还进行改装、加饰件，再经过多位朋友的评头品足，最后才决定下来在婚礼上穿什么。

当然在临行前还要为儿子儿媳做点好吃的。



自己做月饼。



五仁大馅儿。



月饼出炉啦。



一早来到纽约JFK机场，等待去旧金山的班机。大疫当前，乘客零零散散地如小猫两三只。



婚礼现场在旧金山市政厅。









一对新人闪亮登场！











新人为宾客翩翩献舞。



夫妇二人决定婚礼一切从简，这正是二人相同的简朴风格。没去教堂，也不请伴娘伴郎。因为疫情的关系，把邀请的宾客也限制在最小范围。至于蜜月旅行也只能等到将来。





妹妹和男友一直被疫情困在欧洲。为了能赶上哥哥婚礼，几次更改行程，几次换机，经过十几个小时不眠的旅行，终于在婚礼三个小时之前抵达旧金山。连衣服都没来得及换。



愿二人今后携手并进的路，如今天的华彩乐章一样，拾级而上，风光无限。





套一句今天的流行语：携手向未来。







旧金山的夜色。





我们出席新人的晚宴，受到夫妇的夹道欢迎。





亲家欢聚恳谈。



新人为每一位出席晚宴的来宾精心特制了一份礼物，其中有他们过去交往的照片。



我们也仔细欣赏给我们的礼物和照片。





家庭的回忆总是甜蜜的。这张照片是全家出席儿子的MBA毕业典礼。



这张是出席女儿的大学毕业典礼。





我在晚宴上致辞。

应网友的要求，我在最下面贴出致辞的全文和中文译文。没准儿各位日后也被邀求在孩子的婚礼上致词时可以借用两句，版权不究哈。



第二天，儿子儿媳专为前来参加婚礼的年轻人举办一次风格活泼的pizza party。



让孩子们自己去闹腾吧。我和孩儿他妈为儿子儿媳去看看旧金山的房地产行情。顺便来到Land’s End。



”Land’s End“在中文就是”天涯海角“的意思吧？



太平洋。对面是故乡。



跨过金门大桥。



在Sausalito的Fish Market吃炸鱼。每次来旧金山，我们都会来Sausalito 转转。



明天就要离开旧金山了，留下孩子们开始自己独立的生活。我们全家来到旧金山的制高点，俯瞰城市夜色。



愿孩子们的未来如这等绚烂的美景，光华不灭！



Wedding Speech：

Thanks for coming, everybody! Today is a very exciting day. It is exciting because today, this day, is the day, of course, Jessie and D’s wedding day.

But not only that, it is exciting because when D’s Mom gave a birth to D, the nurse gave me a pair of scissors and asked me to cut the umbilical cord, I was holding the scissors, trembling, and thinking about a lot of things, including today.

It is exciting because when I took a Merry-go-around ride together with D and his little sister Cindy at Disneyland, and felt dizzy while seeing the kids laughing and shouting happily, I was thinking about a lot of things, including today.

It is exciting because when D stood by a piano on his little tuxedo, bowed to the applauding audience after his first piano rehearsal, I was thinking about a lot of things, including today.

It is exciting because when two years ago at his Berkley graduation commencement, I saw D on his black gown, on a long line of graduates waiting for their names to be called one by one to go up to take his or her MBA diploma, D raised his arms and waived to us, I was thinking about a lot of things, including today.

It is an exciting day, but also somewhat sentimental day for D’s Mom and me. Because our 31-year-mission is finally over today. We have been enjoying the process so much. Gone with the days when grew together with him. Gone with the days when we could hold him under our wings. We have to give him away. He will be on his own. He will have his own home and his own better half. We will retreat to become a part of his background of his own life. We wish we would become a wallpaper on the computer in his soul, soothing, comforting, inspiring, on which everyday he can open a lot of new windows to the world.

I am proud to say that D inherited my temperament. He is always calm, gentle, amiable and friendly. He never showed his anger. When we scolded him for something, he never retorted, and only kept silent. He always kept his toys neat and clean, in good orders and good shapes. His favorite toys were two maps. One was a U.S. national map and the other one a NYC subway map. He knew the location of every state in America when he was about four years old and even knew the names of most of the state capitals. He put the NYC subway map on the floor and kneeled for long time to study it. He knew which train line was which color and in which station one could change to another train. When his Mom was pregnant with his sister and needed to go to her doctor to have checkups, D carefully designed for Mom a subway itinerary, in which Mom would take less stairs when changing trains.

But frankly D cried a lot as a child. Every time when he was about to cry, first he shut his eyes tightly, trying to hold back tears, and stretched his lips to the ears, and burst into crying, not very loudly, though, and requested: “纸！纸！纸！. Once his piano teacher was a bit tough to him. D started sobbing. At the moment the teacher was at a loss and didn’t know how to calm him down. I laughed and said to the teacher, “Don’t worry. He is just like that. He will be ok.” Before the next piano class, the teacher put a box of tissue paper by D’s side, and said, “This is for you, let’s be prepared for the scene that may happen.”

There was one incident D cried sadly and secretly. He kept it as a secret for many years. Only until very recently when we had a father-and-son chat did he tell me about this incident. Very often I worked late. My firm would give me free dinner and send a taxi to take me home. I usually picked something my kids liked to eat and brought the food home for them. One evening I brought home a bottle of cocoanut soda, which was D’s favorite. The next day D took that bottle to school and planned to enjoy it at lunch time. But it was taken away by his teacher. I imagine the teacher asked, “What’s this? A Molotov cocktail?” Later at lunch time, D saw his teacher holding that “bomb”, drinking! He felt deeply hurt and couldn’t hold back his tears again. That bottle of soda was carried all the way home for him by Dad. D told me he doesn’t have much memory about his elementary school, but that incident he remembered keenly.

D doesn’t cry for a bottle of soda anymore. He is a man now. There is Chinese saying says: 三十而立, which means by thirty years old, you stand straight and tall. The Chinese saying continues: 四十而不惑, which means by forty years old, you have no more doubts. So these ten years from thirty to forty is a critical period in a man’s life: with the experience, background and confidence you already have, you set up your career, set up your value, set up your independent life and set up your family. You stick to your guns and go hard after your goals. So that by forty years old, you can settle down yourself and have no more fears and doubts.

Now, as parents, we too have no more doubts. We have no doubts that D and Jessie will have a happy life together and a happy family forever. We have no doubts that their kids will be as good-looking, as smart, as intelligent, as considerate, as caring and as hard-working as they are. 祝一对新人白头到老，幸福永远！May them happy forever! Thank you!

(译文）

谢谢大家光临！今天是一个令人激动的日子。我激动，因为今天，这一天，当然了，是J和D的大喜之日。

但不仅如此，我激动还因为，当D的妈妈生下D时，护士给了我一把剪刀，让我剪脐带，我拿着剪刀，有些发抖，我想到很多事情，包括今天这个日子。

我激动还因为，当我和D和他的小妹妹辛迪一起乘坐迪斯尼的旋转木马时，我感到头晕目眩，但看到孩子们开心地笑着喊着，我想到很多事情，包括今天这个日子。

我激动还因为，当D穿着他的小燕尾服站在钢琴旁，在他第一次钢琴排练后向鼓掌的观众鞠躬时，我想到很多事情，包括今天这个日子。

我激动还因为，两年前在伯克利大学毕业典礼上，我看到D穿着黑色长袍，站在毕业生队列里等待上台去领取MBA 文凭时，D举起手臂向我们挥手，我想到很多事情，包括今天这个日子。

对于D的妈妈和我来说，这是兴奋的一天，但也是多少有些伤感的一天。因为我们三十一年的使命在今天就结束了。我们一直非常享受这一过程。一去不复返了，和他一起成长的日子；一去不复返了，可以把他守护在卵翼之下的日子。我们必须放手了，让他独立上路。他将拥有自己的家庭和自己的另一半。我们将退后，成为他人生的一部分背景。我们希望我们能成为他心灵电脑上的一张温馨的壁纸，在上面每天他可以打开一个个新的视窗，去看大千世界。

我很自豪地说，D继承了我的性格。他总是冷静、温顺、和蔼、友善。我们从未看到过他发脾气。当我们因为某事责备他时，他从不回嘴，只是沉默。他总是保持他的玩具干净整洁，井井有条。他最喜欢的玩具是两张地图。一张是美国国家地图，另一张是纽约地铁地图。他大约四岁的时候就知道美国每个州的位置，甚至知道大多数州首府的名字。他把纽约地铁地图放在地上，跪在那里研究很久。他知道哪条火车线路是哪种颜色，在哪个车站可以换乘另一辆火车。在妈妈怀了妹妹时，需要去看医生检查。D为妈妈精心设计地铁行程，让妈妈在换乘火车时可以少走楼梯。

但坦白地说，D小时候经常哭。每次他快要哭的时候，他先是紧紧地闭上眼睛，来强忍泪水，然后把嘴唇一直要伸到耳朵边，开始不放声地大哭，“纸！纸！纸！”。有一次，他的钢琴老师对他有点严厉。D又开始哭了。老师不知所措，不知道该如何安抚他。我笑着对老师说：“别担心。他就是这样。没事的。” 下一节钢琴课前，老师把一盒纸巾纸放在D旁边，说：“这个给你，让我们为可能要发生的事情做好准备。”

曾有一件事让D哭得很伤心。这一直是他多年的一个秘密。直到最近，当我们进行一次父与子倾谈时，他才告诉我这件事。那时我经常工作到很晚。我的公司会给我免费的晚餐并派车送我回家。我通常会挑选孩子们喜欢吃的东西，然后把食物带回家。一天晚上，我带了一瓶D 喜欢的椰子汽水回家。第二天，D 带着那个瓶饮料去学校，打算在午饭时间享用。但却被他的老师没收了。我想象老师大概在问：“这是什么？燃烧瓶吧？” 午饭时，D看到他的老师居然举着那个“炸弹”在喝呢！他顿时感到很委屈，再一次管不住自己的眼泪。那瓶汽水可是爸爸老远给他带回家的呀。D告诉我，他对他的小学年代已没有太多记忆，但那件事他难以忘怀。

现在D不再会为一瓶饮料而哭泣了。他现在是个男人了。中国有古语：“三十而立，四十而不惑。” 从三十岁到四十岁这十年，是人生的关键时期 -- 有了你已经拥有的经验、背景和信心，你开始建立你的事业，建立你的价值观，建立你的独立人格，建立你的家庭。你努力拼搏，不达目的不罢休。这样在四十岁时你就可以安定下来，不再有恐惧和疑惑。

现在，作为父母，我们也不再有任何疑惑。我们没有疑惑地相信D和J会一起过上幸福的生活。我们没有疑惑地相信他们的孩子会长得像他们一样漂亮、一样明智、一样聪慧、一样体贴、一样温馨、一样勤奋。祝一对新人白头到老，幸福永远！谢谢大家！