星期天晚上,儿子笑盈盈地冲进厨房。
“妈妈, you know something happened Friday?”
俺停下手中的活计,警惕地抬眼仰望他。
“你没有告诉我,我怎么知道?” 凭历史经验,知道又有好戏,故意绕绕。
“妈妈,请你给我Sign 一个Form吧!” 儿子强忍着笑。
“你又惹了麻烦?”俺明知故问。
“妈妈,有个同学,在Board 前像企鹅一样走路,很好笑。我说他象企鹅, 老师她自己都笑了,可是,没办法,老师还是把我 sent to the office”。儿子一边说,一边乐不可支地比划他同学的企鹅样。
俺展开罚单过目,阅毕真是又好气又好笑。半张小纸头,由浅入深,循序渐进地罗例了五个问题,儿子的任务,首先要诚心实意地回答所有问题。这在他并不为难,米国长大的孩子,从小就是实话实说。 其次,罚单上必须有父母的签名,他想淡定私了还不成哈。但凡此种棘手问题,他从不带到老爸面前,而是神不知鬼不觉地在俺这儿搞定,俺活脱人善被人欺么。
看过他的答案,谅他态度端正,对错误认识恰当,也有悔改诚意,俺便准备大笔一挥,签上大名放他一马。且慢,不能这么轻易就饶了他,防患于未然是为时已晚,防微杜渐可是咱义不容辞的责任。于是乎,之乎者也,语重心长,好好学习,天天向上啊你!
搞定了儿子再细瞧这份罚单,俺对这学校罚单的设计者还得葱白一下。人家把事发情景、缘由、后果合盘端出,请君入瓮,让犯事者有充分自由“从实招来”。也没有人定规三大纪律八项注意,你若认为错在自己,你自个儿好生思量,自开解药吧。
养了个多事的儿子,还真给咱开眼界了呢。推己及人,想到众多华人父母,子女优秀者众,恐难得摊上此等后生,将此作为反面教材秀秀。。。
顺附儿子罚单一份,以餐读者。粗体为吾儿答案。
Behavior Improvement Form
Name: 忽略 Date: 4/8/2011
What were you doing was inappropriate in the classroom?
I called a student a penguin/said he walked like a penguin because he walked very slowly. It was an offensive remark.
What happened right before the incident?
I was taking notes and he was walking in front of the board.
Should there be a consequence for your action? Yes NO
If yes, what consequence would be fair?
A lunch detention..
What could you do differently in the future to avoid this problem?
Hold my thoughts and be patient.
(2011-04-11)