我最好的一个朋友,和我无话不讲,像孪生姐妹一样。聪明能干,脑子特别好用,对人对事黑白分明,一是一,二是二,好就是好,不好就是不好。事业心很强,大家都认为她是一个career-driven、事业型的女性。为了丈夫的事业和孩子,为了全家人能在同一个城市生活,那年她决定放弃人人羡慕,还有可能进一步提升的工作,和家人搬到了墨尔本。
一段时间以后,她病了,她感觉自己真的病了。她的健康状况不明不白地越来越差。一吃早饭胃就烧得难受,常常只能不吃早饭就去上班。坐几十分钟火车去CBD开会都是实实在在的挣扎。她那时很幸运,可以在一定范围里自由安排工作会晤的时间。为了和从西澳过来的顶头上司会晤,她可以先回家闭上眼睛躺在床上两小时,不管睡不睡得着,体力恢复一些以后才再去开会。头疼,脖子疼,全身肌肉疼,大大小小的关节疼,白天无精打采,晚上躺在床上头晕,不能入睡,视力感觉模糊,为一些小事常常生气。情绪低落,以往在人堆里开朗爱说爱笑爱张罗的她,朋友聚会时少言寡语了。
看了GP无数次,检查这检查那,什么似乎都正常,医生说她没病,只是颈椎有点不好。建议她去做一些自己喜欢的体育活动或锻炼,而且要长期坚持。明明白白是病了,医生却说她没病,除了给她开安眠药,其它什么药也没有。于是她又尝试了按摩,中医中药和针灸,可健康状况还是时好时坏。
后来只好请假在家休息,养这不知是什么病的病。病假用完了,用年休假,年休假用完了,用unpaid leave,最后被裁员了。拿了一笔不错的收入当了全职太太。
她的很多症状,都和抑郁症表现相似。只是那时她和她周围的人,对抑郁症一无所知,也没人往那方面想。不明白的是,她的GP为什么就没有给她在这方面提个醒,扫扫盲呢。
Actually, so far my doctors still quite confuse my symptoms. Two family doctors all told me their never saw any patients like me, even though my blood test results indicate I am under the post menopause level. I had visited a psychiatry and told him I was extreme fatigue, muscle pain, heart beat fastness and depression. They asked me if I wanted to suicide. So strange!!!
谢谢分享你的经历。
有意思的是,如今的更年期综合症似乎比上世纪要常见得多。我们是否可以把这和精神方面的因素挂钩呢?
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Very true, it took her quite a while before she realized that she may have depression. Even today, I am not sure if she admitted fully that she had depression, although she was diagnosed by her doctor.
Hope you will get better soon. Be happy.
There are quite a few similar symptoms of these two, I guess. The professional should be able to help. I have a friend she is over 60 and nothing happened during her menopause while others do have difference level of health problem.
看看这个视频,可能对她有帮助。
http://tv.cntv.cn/video/C36966/2e1ecbc47d333ddd01913a2e0a4e5c44
医生因为有责任,有一点怀疑的就乱说,或者是不十分确定的事情就不说,都是常见的。
每个人最后还是自己对自己负责。