冰雪狼
生活的起起落落，辛酸苦辣，让我成长。
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大打出手之后，心情好象平静了好多，管他外面有多少，我要的是我的和平，我想安安稳稳的过好我的日子，把两个可爱宝贝养大。他也想好了要这个家，他也要好好的抚养孩子，所以就给他一次机会。想想自己也30出头了， 吵下去， 离婚了，也不是解决问题的办法，只会给自己加烦恼。
而且，我也鼓足勇气说了要和他分开，但讲了之后，就七上八下的，心里很难受。我相信我一个人能养活我，自己和孩子们，自是想想，这么小的孩子他们能面对吗？他们悔恨我吗？我不想让孩子有一个破碎的家。既然能挽回就努力吧。
他想让我和他一起建一个温暖的家，回味我们的爱。那就来吧，一起努力！
我相信爱可以改变一切。
而且，我也鼓足勇气说了要和他分开，但讲了之后，就七上八下的，心里很难受。我相信我一个人能养活我，自己和孩子们，自是想想，这么小的孩子他们能面对吗？他们悔恨我吗？我不想让孩子有一个破碎的家。既然能挽回就努力吧。
他想让我和他一起建一个温暖的家，回味我们的爱。那就来吧，一起努力！
我相信爱可以改变一切。
So, let’s dealing with the issues one by one:
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After carefully reading all of your articles, I feel very sorry for you, my deal 冰雪 girl; even I am on your site with my heart.
If I say something below, which makes you feel bad, please forgive me. I may say something totally wrong in your view, please keep this in your mind that I am providing you a different angle of the view to look at you and your life.
Generally speaking, it looks like that you have every thing in people’s eyes, a home, a husband, a lovely daughter, a lovely son, a career.
But, in fact, you don’t have anything, you have nothing.
Do you know why?
Because: you don’t have yourself as a person standing in this world. You already forgot all the things about yourself in past years and a quite long time. Who you are, who you used to be, please think about it, ask yourself and take a good look of yourself and the one you used to be a long time ago.
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Take care.
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Do feel pain for you.
All of those you described here are terribly, terribly painful stories/experiences. A poor, poor 冰雪 gril, how much painful you had suffered, are suffering. And how hard your life was, is now. 痛得钻心!!
Before you recollect yourself,
> Crying, crying first please. Crying loudly, crying out everything you had suffered. Give yourself a break Put everything on side, let you mind being blank. I like those words “想哭就哭，想恨就恨. 发泄! 发泄! 发泄! 你伤心！！你生气！！！对这个背叛你的男人，这时你做什么都不为过。”
> Release yourself and at the same time ignoring him (your husband), treat him as air (not existed). Do whatever you want to do.
>>>Being mother, sure, giving love to your kids. Do what you want with them.
>>>Enjoying shopping, sure, spend money and treat yourself better.
>>>Enjoying sport, sure, go running, fitness, whatever
>>>Enjoying ...., do ...
OK, now, let’s start it (静下心来问问自己):
> Think hard about who you were, are and will be, what you want in your life, make your priority list
> Think hard who he is, what type of person he is
> Find your won definitions of 人品 ,道德, 良心, 责任, 爱情, 婚姻, 家
>Then, figure out where you are and where he is now. 你自己想要的到底是什么, 他是不是fit in your definitions about 人品, 责任, …
>Find the difference? Write down.
So, let’s dealing with the issues:
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