The Sccuess Principles-How to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

The author Jack Canfield is the cocreator of the famous Chicken Soup for the Soul series. In this book he offers over 60 principles to inspire people who wants to be a better people, to achieve their dreams.

For me, I don't really know or care too much about sccess. but I do need to feel better about my life and about myself. I don't want to feel dead inside, everything stopped for me. What I seek is spiritual growth, to be mature, understanding and full of love and passion for life.

一方面，我希望自己成熟豁达宠辱不惊；另一方面，如果没有世俗意义的成功，一切听起来又似乎是软弱无力似空中楼阁。希望自己能生活得更加积极，而不只是消极的等待。回忆自己的前几十年，虽然懵懂被动，可是最关键的几步却是自己主动出击得到的机会。仔细一想，似乎颇有玄机。性格决定命运，想改变自己的命运，就要破除习惯的惯性，修缮自己的性格，其他的上天自会决定。

'The principles always work if you work the principles. If you learn them, assimilate them, and apply them with discipline every day, they will transform your life beyond your wildest dream.'

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Principle 1: Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life

简单说来，就是不要怨天尤人，凡事反省自己,这样才能把握自己的生活事业以及命运

说起来好简单的道理，真正能做到的人已经非常让人敬重了.

It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.

You have to give up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons why you can't and why you haven't up until now, and all your blaming of outside circumstances.

99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses

Event + Response = Outcome (和佛教中的因果同出一辙）

If you don't like the outcomes, change your responses.

If something doesn't turn out as planned, you will ask yourself:

How did I create that?

What was I thinking?

What were my beliefs?

What did I do or not do to create that results?

How did I get the other person to act that way?

What do I need to do differently next time to get the result I want?

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You only have control over three things in your life-the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take (your behavior).

How you use these three things determines everything you experience. If you don't like what you are producing and experiencing, you have you change your responses.

Change your negative thoughts to positive ones

Change what you daydream about

Change your habits

Change what you read

Change how you talk

Change your friends

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INSANITY-Continuing the Same Behavior and Expecting a Different Result.

Insanity 是疯狂，愚昧，神经错乱，不过这里是不是翻译为妄想症更贴切？因为神智健全的人不是常常有这种幻想吗？总期待着什么也不做，问题就会自动消失，期待天上会掉馅饼，期待上天的奇迹出现，期待不劳而获...

The day you change your responses is the day your life will begin to get better.

It takes COURAGE to ask for a behavioral change.
人们喜欢抱怨而不愿行动，其实是缺乏勇气，害怕风险。比如抱怨自己的配偶，而不是积极有效的交流寻求解决途径或者干脆离婚。抱怨是最容易，最不需要努力而让自己感觉良好的办法。可惜，抱怨是不能解决问题的办法。

Learn to replace complaining with making requests and taking action that will achieve your desired outcomes. that is what works.

Many times we simply allow things to happen to us by our INACTION and our UNWILLIONGNESS to do what is NECESSARY to create or maintain what we want.
这个应该我最有体会了，消极被动的等待命运的决定而不是主动争取。自己个性比较高傲很多事不屑于做，或者不知道怎么去做的就采取鸵鸟政策。不听不想不问，最后得到让自己失望的结果不也是预料之中的事吗？

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事情发生之间都是有征兆的， 你注意到了吗？
Clues, inklings (暗示）, suspicions, fleeting thought, intuition, gut feeling
that fear that emerged
that dream that woke you up in the middle of the night

是的，你注意到了，种种迹象都表明事情不妙，但你选择去忽略，选择不相信。

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改变你的思想和行为，仔细观察结果。对自己诚实，你会知道这些改变是否有效：你是否感觉更快乐，工作是否更有成效，夫妻关系是否改善。

Ask for feedback

Slow down and pay attention. Life will always give you feedback about the effects of your behavior if you will just pay attention.

To implement principles requires concentrated awareness, dedicated discipline, and a willingness to experiment and take risks.

执行这些成功准则需要你高度清晰，严格执行，自愿实验并承担风险