As long as ppl are not really in my way, I let them be what they are. I may complain from time to time, but I try not to judge. Hey, whom I am to judge others?

We don't really really know their life, we don't know what they went through to be what they are, or act in a particular way. We have to admit the fact that even the most intimate family members or best friends don't share their secrets, especially those unhappy ones. If we know ppl better, maybe we will realise they have tried. Even if they didn't try at all, hey, our time and energy is limited. You know, we only can do what we can, with what we have, where we are.

As it's said before, "The best friends are those ppl who know a lot about your but still accept the way you are."

As to other ppl whom we don't friend with, then we simply have no right whatsoever. I personally won't change the way I am just to make others' work and / or life easier. Come on, a lot of us don't even change ourselves for our partners. Maybe one of those days when I'm in good mood, I will be a sweet and live up to other ppl's expectation. But even if I did, I still have no right to ask others to do the same to me, be a sweet and change their ways for me.