前两天贴出《女人,你了解男人吗?》那篇小文后,在网上引起很多争论。有人说对这些问题考虑太多的女人是自找没趣,会活得很累。。。
我说,这是知己知彼。作为女人,了解了男人的生物特性后,会给他留出一定的空间,更好的处理和他的关系。。。
嘿嘿,这锅浆糊准备继续捣下去, 对Dr. Brizendine列举的这些男人的特性,你了解多少,能包容多少?
Cuts You Off When You're Venting With A Solution To Your Problem (男人不善于倾听,特别在你需要安慰的时候)
The male brain is a lean, mean, problem-solving machine. That's why the man in your life tries to solve your problems instead of listening attentively while you vent. When he's faced with a personal problem, he uses his analytical brain structures, not his emotional ones, to find a solution. And it's frustrating to him when you don't let him try to help this way.
Goes Overboard With Protective Instincts (男人有很强的保护意识)
The male brain is also programmed to protect and provide for his family and bond with his children.
Too Ready To Fight (男人往往争强好斗)
He thrives under competition and is driven to improve his rank in whatever hierarchy he's in. His bravery is fed in his teen years when a massive increase in testosterone makes him perceive other people's faces as more aggressive than friendly. And as he matures, he's wired to let his guard down a little and show his softer side more often.
He's Possessive(男人有很强的占有欲)
He can fall in love just as hard as we can and sometimes more so.
He Had No Clue You Were About To Cry(男人很难理解为什么女人情绪如此波动)
Forgive him for not understanding why you're crying. He does care. His way of showing he cares is to relieve your suffering by solving your problem. But he can't read your face well enough to see the tears coming. He's not wired for it, so cut him some slack.
He Wants Too Much Sex (男人的性欲比女人强很多)
He can't stop this desire any more than you can stop wanting to talk and cuddle. Stop thinking that it's weird or perverted for him to want a lot of sex or to want you to heighten his experience with sexy outfits or lingerie. He is much more visually stimulated than you are. You feel like he loves you when he listens to you and wants to spend time with you. He feels like you love him when you have sex with him and enjoy it.
He Looks At Other Women (男人会情不自禁的对其他漂亮的女人行注目礼)
Take a deep breath and accept that his brain is hard wired to zoom in on female body parts. He really can't help it. His brain and senses get hijacked by "man trance." Looking at a woman's breasts is something his brain will direct him to do his entire life. That doesn't mean he shouldn't learn to be discreet, but it does mean a trip to the lingerie store could spice up your sex life.
He's Too Quick To Anger (男人容易发火,失控)
Yes, he's quicker than you because your brain has an extra "stomach" for chewing anger that his doesn't have. He goes zero to fist fight in an instant. Don't feed into his angry rants. Yelling back at him or taunting him when he's already angry is like whacking a bee hive with a bat. Men can succumb to something called autocatalytic anger. Break that cycle by refusing to add fuel to the fire. And if you were wrong, admit it and bare your neck a little. His bark is usually worse than his bite.
综上所述,如果你了解了男人的大脑和女人是如此不同。作为女人,我们就不要指望男人行为处事和女人一样,也不要试图改变他们。这不仅是无用功,如果你硬要这么做,只会导致你们之间的关系紧张,矛盾爆发。
愿我们都能做一个有包容,有智慧,有情趣的女人。
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应当是很好的参考教材。
说的很对,做到这个需要有一个善于领悟的头脑。
领悟了男人的需要,接下来关键就是怎么应对的了。
那就是"每人都不大一样."了!
"每人都不大一样."
"每人都不大一样."
每人都大一样.
建议读者: 不要把她(Dr. Brizendine)说的当成是圣经...可以做参考.