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在职场对自己最不公平的就是让一件件小事无声无息地过去

(2012-12-14 13:06:19) 下一个

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你可以与人为善,也可以与人方便,更可以宽容,but nobody should ever take that as granted, your boss, your peers, or those who report to you. 




Because of different interests and/or personalities, there will always be disagreement, argument, and even fights at work. Avoiding fight sometimes is an open invitation of more abuse, and people will take advantage of you more frequently. Then again, you don't want to be seen as someone who argues over pettiness all the time.


In my opinion, it's very important to pick your fight wisely and early. You can be friendly and flexible all you want to, and you should be. But when it comes to principles, no matter how trivia the matter seems to be, you want to make a point and take a stance. You collect all the evidence, and sort through your thoughts. Start the fight in a civilized way, but make a great deal of it, in front of all the interest parties. You are sending out a strong message - you are a nice person, but you don't take BS from anyone. Don’t forget to dish out a joke on yourself at the endJ


“If you want peace, prepare for war”. Trust me, they will think twice next time, if you react early and calculated.


You should never, never let small bad things done to you, gradually piling on. Because at some point, you can't take it any more, then you will break out, and people will be wondering - gee, over such minor things? Nobody will be there to listen to your whole story, how that guy constantly takes advantage of you over the years/months.


Right now, I guess taking credit of your work without acknowledging you properly, and deleting your data, purposely, are big deals, and you should voice your dissatisfaction loudly. But remember, your opinion only weighs as much as your position. As you said, that project is your baby, so all it matters is at this stage, how much do they need you for this project? It’s going to be tough.


Lessons are only learned in a hard way, unfortunately.


Good luck!



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43码半 回复 悄悄话 最关键的是能知道自己的原则是什么,底线在哪里。许多人觉得有麻烦,根子就在于没有想清楚这件事。知人者智,自知者明。自知,有时候难于知人。
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