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诸位来访的朋友: 谢谢大家的关注。不过我必须声明一下：袅袅发这个贴是因为最近一些男生行为言论有感而发。绝对不是为了征婚。（我的信箱里充斥了很多奇奇怪怪的QQH。让我忍俊不禁。）
这世界真是只许洲官放火不许百姓点灯! 如果我是男生这么大放撅词大家是不是就觉得好受点? 即使不好受也觉得能容忍。但是偏偏是个女孩， 而且是个年轻的女孩，就听了觉得不入耳，不舒服。甚至觉得 80年代的女孩子疯狂的很。
可悲的是很多女性骨子里也接受了男性的思维方式, 甚至对女孩子的要求和批评比男性更苛刻, 我不过是把自己想的真诚坦白的说出来了? 那些批评我的女生你们扪心自问,你们不这么想吗? 当你们在准备找自己人生的另外一半的时候真的不从条件的方面去评估对方吗?
那些骂我的男生?你们自己真的对女孩子就那么宽厚善良吗? 试问:一个女孩又丑又笨, 你们会,君子好逑吗?你们见了漂亮女孩谦躬有礼，殷勤周到， 何曾顾及到旁边那些被冷落的丑陋的， 或者愚笨女孩子，尤其是那些聪明而不漂亮的女孩，她们也有一颗敏感善良的心，她们也渴望被人关心被人注目。你们真的像对待美女一样善待她们吗？因此你们批评人的时候最好嘴下留德。
今天不能多说了, 回头和大家再讨论. 不管怎么样, 谢谢大家的关注. 更谢谢那些能理解我的朋友们。
我原本可没有想到被置顶, 更没有想到有这么大反响. 一切出乎意料. ANYWAY, 谢谢大家光临.
（我今年刚来到北美，请大家多关照。 ）
The fundamental question you may need to ask yourself is that what criteria you should rely on to decide who would the right person to be with form the day of commitment to death setting you apart.
Are wealth and physical attractiveness important? Absolutely, they do. No one would deny fortune and attractiveness do make life more enjoyable (many people include me benefit from those two). Nevertheless, one should also aware the satisfactions from those thing tends to fade quickly, Moreover, they are easily dwarfed by other intangible , yet , crucial qualities of a person such as faithfulness, honesty, courage, determination, of course, unconditioned love … just name few. Working in Wall Street, I found that screening a good person bears remarkable similarity as uncovering a gem stock. Here, future growth rather current standing should be the center of focus since it is the potential that would provide tremendous reward and triumph.
Further more, you may need to use your other senses as well in order to get what you want/need in addition to what you can see. I learned to activate my full senses year ago in an incident and they have been helping me to do well in furious competition.
It was the first year I arrived from China and worked as a TA in my graduate school. One weekend in the fall, my professor invited me and other boys in the department to join him to go deer hunting. Personally, I’d prefer buying meat in supermarket let along to shoot a “Bambi”. But the combination of seeking thrill and securing next semester’s scholarship brought me to the trip. Once in the wood and separated from the rest of team I realized suddenly in the mist of morning fog I couldn’t even see things in few feet away. Excitement and bravery seemed dissipating as fast as cold sweat running on my back. A simple question surfaced in my mind: how I would know a shadow approaching would be a deer or person, worse, could I be mistaken as a game to get shot? For a moment I closed my eyes, I started to listen carefully what was happening in my surrounding. The sound of falling autumn leaves and blowing wind in the floor of forest, to my surprise, they began to communicate to me so clearly, I could tell my raw instincts kicked in to guide me. Amazingly on the spot I could sense and differentiate the rattle of a rotten family rushing by or the vibrations of foot steps of a much big creature. By touching the bark of the tree I leaned on I could tell which side would be facing north. First time in my entire life I was awakened and guided by the powers of other senses besides eye sight at apparently no man’s land.
To make the story short, I was the only person that day shot a deer (a buck over 150 lbs ) in our whole hunting team and received honor and congratulations. Needless to say I felt sorry for the poor creature I shot and promised myself never shoot again and I did. Later, I didn’t even bother to attend the dinner party grilling deer steaks hosted at my professor’s backyard. However, this hunting episode indeed revealed something to me from that day to now. That is, to survive and succeed one must senses what you may not able to see.
能到他的境界的人毕竟很少， 大家都是俗人嘛， 呵呵
人的美丑不由外表决定， 楼主现在还太小， 长大就会明白的...
BTW： 女孩不一定都是水做的， 男孩， 也不都是泥做的...
(你说: 我反倒见多很多容貌丑陋的女性很滥交心理很阴暗, 很多漂亮女孩很单纯善良.还有很多帅气男孩也很坦诚正直.还有很多成功的人对家庭非常负责.不过越是出众的人人们越关注他们, 于是他们有什么问题就越被研究吧.).
漂亮女孩, 帅哥, 有钱的人, 他们一般属于心高气傲之人, 更讲面子, 更受到重视, 更受到限制, 更多责任, 更多压力, 他们更难象平常人那样随便, 更别谈花! 也许是:(高处不胜寒)!
很高兴和袅袅妹妹交流,知道你刚来北美不久,衷心希望你能开心幸福.
其实起源于前几天遇到一个狂妄的家伙口出狂言,这里就不提了.万一他来看贴会说我不尊敬他的隐私呢, 嘻嘻
其实每个能来北美留学奋斗的GG们已经很优秀了, 我说的凭自己的能力出来拿奖学金的人.如果你是那你就是很出色的人了.
我其实没有反驳你的观点,相反我很同意,只是我觉得有必要不那么极端.我认为因该人尽其才,也就是所谓的郎才女貌,或是郎财女貌,如果一个美女嫁给武大郎,暴殄天物不说,观众也不答应啊..哈哈.
不过漂亮的女孩可以对人很有同情心很谦虚有礼貌, 但是不会同情到去嫁给他的.也许有例外, 但是我想很少的.呵呵
我想知道, 为什么总是希望漂亮女孩特善良,脱俗, 高尚风格的去嫁给一个普通的男生, 而没有男生去提倡牺牲一下自己去把一个无人问津的丑女孩娶回家呢? 很多事情反之一想就觉得有趣啊
我反倒见多很多容貌丑陋的女性很滥交心理很阴暗, 很多漂亮女孩很单纯善良.还有很多帅气男孩也很坦诚正直.还有很多成功的人对家庭非常负责.
不过越是出众的人人们越关注他们, 于是他们有什么问题就越被研究吧.
我旗帜鲜明的说出了自己的观点, 其实别的女孩心里也未必这么想, 不过很多人喜欢装清纯,遮遮掩掩的, 我不会罢了.
你说的很多人有才华但是不能赚很多钱, 那叫什么才啊? 所谓才能一定包括人际交往和赚钱能力, 那种只会读书的书呆子已经过时了, 你在美国看看那些受学生爱戴和追随的教授们, 哪个不是手里既有实验室又有公司? 当然也有纯高研究的人才.
但是如果你不能让家人过上快乐生活, 那你的才能又有什么用处?
我们能真诚讨论这真不错.)
不过话说回来,有钱男人的钱毕竟是他的,即使结婚了,也不是你的.有钱人是很聪明的,婚前都会办财产公证,所以不要以为嫁个有钱人自己也就是有钱人了. 除非这钱是你自己挣得或是父母给的.现今社会没有比婚姻更脆弱的人际关系了,甚至还没有朋友同学的友谊坚固.我自己是男人我心里很清楚, 男人固然喜欢美女,但是却不一定渴望娶一个美女,美女也许是情人,女朋友,红颜知己,好朋友. 大部分男人希望娶一个相貌上基本看得顺眼,善良,贤惠,真心爱自己而不是钱,有共同的嗜好,相近的文化品位,甚至在专业工作上可以交流的女孩. 如果一个有钱的帅哥在你面前跪下说,你很漂亮嫁给我吧,你心里会踏实么?因为毕竟年轻漂亮女孩子太多了.五年十年后呢?当你不再年轻,不再那么漂亮,当你被实际生活抹去了原本的那份清澈,而你的老公还是那么有钱那么帅气,周围的年轻漂亮女孩子还在一茬一茬的冒出来,你还会那么有把握么? 如果你的老公不幸背叛了你,除了那点补偿金,也许就一无所有了.
所以说找个有钱人, 没有错, 有钱不代表人不好, 没钱也不一定就忠厚老实.最理想的是能遇到一个从平时的生活点滴中感受到魅力, 观察细节, 能找到一个志趣相投,品位相近,心地善良的男人. 当然也有能让你仰慕的才华和特长. 但是就我的感受美女在这点上往往是容易被蒙蔽欺骗的,因为是美女,在平时的接触中,甚至追求你的过程中男孩都掩饰了自己的不足,甚至会伪装演戏,让你无法看清真实面目. 而且美女在女生堆里往往会因嫉妒被群体孤立,排斥.在日常的生活中被相干不相干的男人追求,骚扰, 被拒绝了的男人品性差一些的还会释放谣言丑闻,跳楼割挽. 哎,所以当美女也不一定是那么的幸福.
总之,爱情婚姻是愿者上钩,愿赌服输!