hi, very touched by your writing, so sorry about what you are experiencing, i just lost my grandfather with whom i grew up 3 months ago. the kind of pain and loss is beyond words, i replayed the moment of his death a million times in my mind,and often feel regretful and depressed, because he was so sick but pretended so well that the whole family neglected the fact that he was actually dying in his last two days. so much "had I knew he was dying...i would at least talked to him more, held him more, touched him more, comforted him more...' the only comforting thought to me is that once he dies, he would no longer suffer physical pain, i guess one has to keep on thinking this thought to get by...
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